When I first went natural, I assumed that I had to use a million different products in order to achieve the “look” that I wanted. I thought that I could turn my natural hair texture into something else, if I just got my hands on the right cream/lotion/potion. Boy was I in for a rude awakening. My curl pattern is so tight in the back of my head and I thought I could elongate my curls by using certain things. I was trying to force my hair into being a totally different texture instead of just embracing the texture God gave to ME.
I would go to the beauty supply store and buy a whole bunch of items geared toward curls and waves, not really caring what was in them…as long as they gave me the results that I wanted. I would then proceed to put those products in my hair, thinking a miracle would happen. The result was hard and crunchy curls, lol. It wasn’t until a year and a half after I went natural that I embraced my own hair. I don’t have hair that slicks down when wet. I don’t have hair that can be revived with “just a little water.” I can’t just throw my hair in a pony tail and be on my way. I can’t even put my thick mane in a pony tail holder because it doesn’t fit! And I definitely can’t wash my hair and leave the house. It would be a matted mess by the end of the day. Over the years, I had to learn how to love my hair and each individual strand that God gave me. I had to learn that while I may not have Brazilian wavy or Puerto Rican curls, my hair is still beautiful. It’s thick, it’s healthy, and it’s versatile. I can wear my hair in braids, in twists, in a huge afro, in a curly afro, in a bun, in up do’s, in ringlets, and I can even wear it bone straight.
Whether your hair texture is kinky, wavy, coiled, springy, curly, or straight – embrace it. It’s yours. Remember, there are people all over the world with REAL hair issues that would love to have yours!